Showing posts with label dad stuff. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dad stuff. Show all posts

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Septmeber 24: Sunday Afternoon, Classic Saint Marty, "In Praise of Daughters"

Welcome to Sunday afternoon. 

I've been working for a few hours on teaching stuff.  Now I'm doing blogging stuff.  Afterwards, I'm going to do poetry stuff.  I'm working on a couple new poems.  Tonight, I'll do some reading stuff.

Three years ago, I was worrying about boy stuff and dad stuff . . .

September 23, 2014:  Boys, Terry Godbey, "The Purity of Boys"

Yes, I've been thinking about little boys a lot these last couple of days.  Boy stuff.  I've never been a typical guy, especially in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, where I grew up.  I don't like to fish.  The idea of shooting any living thing with a rifle makes me a little sick to my stomach.  I don't like the taste of most wild game meat.  Not my thing.  I'd rather read a good novel, watch a documentary on PBS, or read a poem.

Terry Godbey has a great poem about boys in her collection Flame.  The boys in the poem are trying to impress the girls.  The girls are trying to attract the boys.  There's much showing off by both genders.  But, in the end, they remain on their respective sides, wanting each other, but not knowing how to say so.

Saint Marty prefers that arrangement at the moment, especially for his teenage daughter.

The Purity of Boys

by:  Terry Godbey

Water glints and sparks as they spill
from the pool and smash the sunlight to bits,
every movement designed to impress,
each glance a measure of our meager curves.
They dive and ride their bodies,
bark like seals as we chatter
and make lacy splashes in the shallow end.
Each long day drips honeysuckle.
We burn with impatience,
count out coins for ice cream cones
that drizzle our striped towels.
Sulky, drowsy in the heat, we oil
our caramel skin, watch the boys
watch us and lay side by side,
arranging our long-stemmed legs
in the blue vase of afternoon.

And, since Terry Godbey's poem is about boys, I have a poem for you about girls . . .

In Praise of Daughters

by:  Martin Achatz



Zeus gave birth to Athena himself, from a pain in his deathless temples, ten thousand Greeks pounding the walls of Troy.  She charged from his skull, full grown and armored, wailed a war cry louder than the cries of all the mothers who've lost sons in battle.  A sound that shook the dust of Olympus.  Zeus heard her, saw the bronze on her breasts, watched her flight, up and up, and knew his creation was good, the way Elohim knew light and dark, heaven and earth, sea and mud, man and woman were good on day six.

I saw my daughter charge into the world on a morning of wind and ice.  Heard her first sound, a call to battle.  For oxygen and milk.  Her frog body, slick and red, mapped the contours of my heart, its empty ventricles and auricles.  Flooded them.  The way the sea flooded the Titanic that April night.  I foundered, split, capsized, went under.  Swallowed whole by an ocean of daughter.  Now, almost eleven years later, I watch her this autumn day.  She stands in a cyclone of gold and red.  The leaves spin, rise around her, catch her hands and feet and hair, carry her up and up.  To the clouds.  To the moons.  Up and up.  To the constellations.  Up and up.  Cassiopeia.  Andromeda.  Up and up.  Cygnus.  Scutum.  And up.  Virgo.  And up.  To the arms of Zeus.  Of Elohim.  Up.  Where she sings, dances like an owl-eyed goddess.



Tuesday, March 19, 2013

March 19: Harrowing Letter, Dad, Saint Joseph

"Apparently before he phoned me he'd just had a long, rather harrowing letter from your latest headmaster, to the effect that you were making absolutely no effort at all.  Cutting classes.  Coming unprepared to all your classes.  In general, being an all-around--"

Mr. Antolini is speaking to Holden.  Antolini has recently had lunch with Holden's dad, and his father has just received some bad news from the headmaster at Pencey, the prep school Holden is currently flunking out of.  Holden doesn't express a whole lot of respect or admiration for his father throughout The Catcher in the Rye.  In fact, Mr. Caulfield ranks right at the top of the the list of phonies in the novel.   Fathers and father figures don't do well in Salinger's world.

I don't know a whole lot about traditional "dad" stuff.  You know, cars and tools and football and hunting.  I'm not sure how excited my son is going to be on bring-your-son-to-work day.  I can just see him, sitting in a college classroom, listening to me explain the difference between Shakespearean and Italian sonnets.  He's going to think he's got the lamest father in the world.

Today, March 19, is the feast of Saint Joseph, husband of Mary and foster-father of Jesus.  Talk about pressure.  I can't imagine the thoughts that went through Joe's head while he was making tables and chairs in his workshop.  It's bad enough for me having a son who's into guns and swords and trucks.  Joe had a Son who was into souls and salvation and redemption.  Yet, Jesus was a dutiful Jewish child, I'm sure.  He did His chores, carved wood with Joe, swept up the sawdust at the end of the day, and loved His foster-father.  For his part, Joe protected the Child and His mother.  He worked hard to provide food and shelter; he celebrated the Jewish holy days and taught Jesus, in a human way, to love God.  Joe was a good dad.

On the dad scale of Mr. Caulfield to Saint Joseph, I fall smack dab in the middle in my estimation.  I will disappoint my kids.  I will lose my temper and make mistakes.  When my son shoots his first deer, I will be appalled, but tell him that I'm proud.  I will sit in the bleachers in snowstorms if he plays football, and I will go to sweaty gymnasiums if basketball's his game.

But I will talk to him about poetry and literature, too.  I'll read him my favorite kid's books.  Charlotte's WebCharlie and the Chocolate Factory.  I'll enroll him in dance class.  (Hey, I can always hope.)  I'll take him to church and teach to him about another Son and Father.  I will be the best dad I can be.

Hopefully, Saint Marty's son won't flunk out of prep school.

I wonder how Jesus would do in ballet